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Now that the initial backlash has passed, let’s objectively chat about Elisa Chan and her anti-gay statements. Let me start this off by stating that Elisa Chan identifies with the Republican party. Why is that relevant? In a nutshell what this means is that she doesn’t expect to receive any support from Democratic voters. Okay, now we have established that.
As we listen in on the now infamous audio recordings we can hear that they are discussing how to appeal to her Conservative voter base. It is obviously clear that they were trying to determine how to lock in those supporters while at the same time not heavily offending non-supporters or potential would be supporters. Let us be clear on one thing though, at least for the foreseeable future it is safe to say that Democrats will not vote for a Republican candidate. You can rest assured that conservatives know this as well.
You’ll notice that I do say the “foreseeable future” and there is a reason for that. A brief look through history or a quick online search will demonstrate that some of these so called “Republican” organizations actually supported and protected what have since then become Democratic voters. Do some research on the NRA and you will see exactly what I am talking about.
These days, though, no matter what a member of the GOP says, they are probably not getting a Democratic voter to switch sides. Even moderate Conservatives like Libertarian Rand Paul are met with heavy resistance regardless of what they say or do. Make no mistake, these discussions were geared towards getting Conservative votes. Although, one never knows how the political climate will change in the future.
Whether or not we want to accept it, there are still many people out there that feel being gay is wrong. Some people feel that way because of religious beliefs. Others feel that way because of nature, they feel “it’s just not natural”. A point that is often made by anti-gay folks I debate with is the following: “A man and a man, or a woman and a woman cannot have children.” Because it is not physically possible for gays to reproduce, these folks feel that their lifestyle is not natural. Other people were simply brought up to hate those that are different, they don’t limit their hatred to gays, it carries over to other cultures, colors, neighborhoods and on and on it goes.
As I researched this topic for references, I found plenty of data. Most recently I read about a gay couple that was attacked in Chelsea. As a side note, Chelsea happens to be one of the most gay friendly neighborhoods in NYC. As I read the stories on the different sites, some of the hateful comments I came across from the anti-gay population were absolutely shocking. I believe that we all have the right to express ourselves, but when you applaud violence and you actually take pleasure in seeing people get hurt, then you, my friend, are not being a very good human being. I couldn’t believe some of the things that I read. I don’t care to repeat them, but if you read the comments on the aforementioned link, you’ll see these comments for yourselves.
Whatever the case may be, these people have as much of a right to not approve of gays, as gays have the right to not approve of their ways. But violence is where I draw the line. Although violence over all in the city is going down, violence against the LGBT community seems to be on the rise. As of March 2013 there were a reported 29 attacks against gays, up from 14 during the same time the year before. One of those terrible attacks was the cold blooded murder of Mark Carson, a 32 year old gay man that was murdered simply for being gay. How anyone can justify these actions is just beyond me.
Personally, I have no quarrel with gay people, never have. I have gay and bisexual friends, and these folks are intelligent, kind, caring individuals. They are cool people just like their straight counterparts. The only difference between us is that they happen to be attracted to the same sex while I’m attracted to the opposite sex.
To think that someone could kill one of my friends just because of their sexual preference is appalling. How does their sexual preference hurt anyone? It doesn’t hurt anyone at all, so why would another person have such a problem with their life choices that they would feel a need to murder them? I don’t understand why some people hate gays to that degree.
That being said, I don’t try and convince any of the those folks to change their minds. They have the right to feel as they do for whatever reasons they may have. Now mind you, this doesn’t apply to someone who attacks or otherwise takes violent action against a gay person, that’s a totally different thing that we cannot tolerate or support.
Elisa Chan may have said some things that some will disagree with, but she didn’t advocate violence or the destruction of gays. She was just stating her opinion during a conversation she felt was confidential. Her opinion, though not popular with some, is her’s to have. In fact, believe it or not, this audio leak may lock down that Republican vote for her in Texas. This aid kid may have inadvertently done her a favor. At the end of the day, if you don’t like what she stands for, then don’t vote for her. It’s as simple as that, that’s the way politics go.
One thing she said that I do agree with is that she doesn’t care what lifestyle anyone lives, so long as they don’t cram it down our throats. I can agree with that. I don’t care what anyone does with their lives, just don’t force it on me and don’t force it on my loved ones. Lately I have seen a lot of that happening, and to be honest, I don’t like it at all.
For instance, I have a major problem with this nonsense going on in California where Governor Jerry Brown has made it ok for boys to use the girls’ bathroom if they are gay or transsexual. I believe that this was also one of the points in the ordinance that Elisa Chan and her team were meant to be discussing during these meetings. I don’t approve of this at all. This is an example of forcing something on me and my children that I don’t approve of. I don’t want boys in a bathroom with my daughter. Period.
Does that mean I hate gays? Does that mean I advocate bullying? No! I don’t hate gays at all, I just don’t want a boy in the bathroom with my daughter. It’s as simple as that.
With a population where 1 in 10 individuals are gay, there is a good chance that you will encounter a gay person in your life and you have to get along.
I mentioned the hateful comments from anti-gay supporters before, but there is the other side of that coin as well. I have expressed my views on the bathroom topic on several other forums, some people have taken my views and twisted them way out of context. Some have called me a bigot while saying that my views are hateful and ignorant. But I ask you what is hateful about not wanting a boy in the bathroom with my young daughter?
These manipulative people try and guilt trip you into changing your stance with either politically correct “statements” or just straight up abuse and attacks. Ironically these attacks are just another form of bullying, the very thing that Governor Jerry Brown is trying to stop with his misguided, ridiculous unisex kids’ bathroom plan. Hypocrites much?
Elisa Chan allegedly said being gay is disgusting, and though I personally don’t agree with her views, she is entitled to her opinion. It works both ways, though. Recently I was hanging out with one of my gay friends and he asked me “If I would ever date a man?” My response was “No, I have no interest in men.” He seemed taken aback and almost offended by the fact that I am not interested in men, but I told him that this is my choice and he has to respect it just as I respect his. I’m just simply not attracted to men, period! He eventually understood what I was saying.
Do you think that my gay friend offended me in any way? Not at all, he was just asking an honest question and it didn’t hurt me in any way, shape or form. I know a few people that would have probably knocked out his teeth for insinuating that they were gay, by the way. We all have different views and preferences and there is nothing wrong with talking about them.
Unlike me and my gay friend though, Elisa Chan is in a position of power and that makes things a little different. The thing is that when it comes to politics you have a choice. The people’s voice can and will prevail. If you don’t like her views then vote her out of office! If you like her politics, then vote for her. Boom, problem solved, end of story!
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