So I saw this video shared on some right wing site about whether or not preferring a woman with a vagina is trans-phobic? I didn’t even bother reading the article because I know that this would be some biased, anti-lgbt bull crap. I’m not interested in some right wing anti-lgbt views, it’s old and we know the story. However, I did watch the video as I wanted to listen for myself and then form my own opinion.
Riley throws around words that I’ve never even heard of in my life. She’s jumping from one point to the other, and moving so fast at making all her points that my head was spinning while trying to grasp what she was talking about.
One point that she made was that if you prefer a woman with a vagina, you are probably what is called cissexist. She stated that it’s probably due to being raised in a cissexist society. That’s one of those words I never heard of. However, I do not agree with this statement. If we believe (and I do) that people are born gay, or in the wrong gender, etc, then you must also believe that some of us are born liking women with vaginas. It’s some innate attraction and desire. The same way you can’t explain how a man is attracted to another man, despite living in a CIS society, I can’t explain being attracted to a woman with a vagina. It just is.
I respect all of you, but YOU WILL NOT, no matter how many words or points you make, EVER influence in any way, shape, or form what or who I am attracted to. I happen to like vaginas. I have yearned for vaginas since as far back as I can remember. I have no recollection of ever making the conscious decision to like vaginas, I just did. That sounds familiar, doesn’t it? It’s the same argument I make when defending my friends in the LGBT community. We like what we like!
On that note, I am 100% attracted to women with vaginas. I will admit, I have seen transgender women who I find visually attractive, but this isn’t about beauty or whatnot. When it comes to sex, I am not attracted to a penis, so by having a penis, you and I will never have sex. That’s the bottom line here, I’m not discriminating against you, I just like vagina. In fact, I like vagina so much, that I’ve had sex with a few women who I didn’t even find all that attractive in the past, but they had a vagina. See, it all comes back to the vagina. That longing runs deep my friends, pun intended.
Could you argue that I am being discriminatory? I don’t know what Riley would say, but my answer would be hell no! I still care for you, I still respect you, I may think you are pretty, (or not, depends as I also have my preferences on specific looks) but I’m not gonna engage with you sexually unless you have a vagina.
If anyone has a problem with that, well, I’ll tell you the same thing I tell anyone who has a problem with someone else’s sexual preferences, mind your own business, live your own life, and don’t worry about who I want to have sex with.
I love my transexual friends, my gay friends, my CIS friends, my friends who don’t care for sex, I love you all. But the only ones I’ll have sex with are the ones that I want to have sex with. There is no room for negotiation when it comes to whom I want to make love to.
Riley says that one of the things people like me can do is simply not talk about what we like, because it could hurt someone’s feelings. Mind you, I don’t walk around screaming, “I love vagina,” but when I see a video like this one, then I have to respond. It’s about dialogue right? This isn’t a one way conversation where you speak and I have to simply listen and accept what you say. I don’t know what label Riley would place upon me based on what I’ve said here today. I’m sure that my words could be interpreted as offensive in 100 ways. But if saying that I am only attracted to women with vaginas is a problem, then all I can say to you is sorry, but it is what it is.
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