You know, normally I don’t pay much mind to celebrity gossip like this, but this one caught my interest. I read a snippet of the story on WBLS and decided to read more on the story.
My intentions were to learn more about this guy, and why the heck he would give up his last name. It seems sacrilegious to me that a man would do such a thing.
When my wife and I married, she didn’t want to change her name, I didn’t give it a second thought. It doesn’t matter to me whether or not she changes it to mine. However, my last name is important to ME. It is the name I have passed on to my son, and it is the name he will pass on. It is like our legacy.
I feel like taking on another name takes away that legacy. My wife is Chinese, and her name is obviously a Chinese last name. It would be rather odd for her to show up somewhere and introduce herself with my last name. I’m not saying it doesn’t happen, or that it is wrong, but people would express shock, and say “Oh, okay, Hi Mrs Rodriguez.”
As a man, I feel very strongly about my identity. Rodriguez is the name that was passed on to me, and I’d never change it.
The article I read stated that Zoe discouraged him from doing this, because it would emasculate him among his peers and the world. The guy doesn’t care, and that’s fine, it’s his life and he can do what he wants. I wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t want to be known as “Zoe Saldana’s husband.” That’s how I found the post on him by the way.
Although I guess the jokes on me, she’s pretty damn beautiful, and a famous star. So who’s laughing?
Reading the article on HuffPo I did learn quite a bit about Zoe and how she has handled pregnancy, the changes, etc. Though I don’t know much about her, after reading that article I have a great deal more respect for her. Her openness and honesty about being a new mom is refreshing, and reminds us that these superstars are people like you and I. Next time I see her name, I will know who she is.
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