Once upon a time, one of my ex-girlfriends told me that I was the best lover she ever had. She said that was true even though I was smaller than her ex in the penis department.
When she told me that, I didn’t really focus on the part about how amazing a lover I was. Nope, sometimes we have selective hearing when it comes to comments about size. All I heard was “he’s bigger than you.” Many guys won’t admit it openly because of pride and ego, but we all have insecurities. Yes, men included.
A couple of days ago I saw a friend post something criticizing one of her friends for dating a man with less than an 8-inch penis. “If you want to be happy, you need a man who has at least 8 inches, and if more than 8 inches, even better,” she wrote.
That may be her preference, but it’s not the same for everyone. I’m not 8 inches, and some of the women I’ve been with even found it challenging to be with me. If I were 8 inches, maybe we wouldn’t have been compatible sexually.
That post really seemed to speak loudly to women, but men stayed quiet publicly. Women shared their opinions and joked about guys under 8 inches, but the men kept silent.
Though, some men messaged my friend privately, and a few sent messages to me after seeing my comment. Of course, none would say anything publicly because owning a size under 8 inches is still something a lot of guys feel embarrassed about. Men and our fragile egos…
Anyway, I’m not ashamed to say I don’t have an 8-inch penis, nowhere close. If that doesn’t work for you, I get it, you don’t have to be with me. I’m married anyway, so odds are nobody else will see it. Easy peasy. Also, except for the one lady mentioned above, my size has never come up before. And despite being smaller, she said I was her best lover up to that point.
I bring this up because we were talking about male insecurities, and some women seem to think men don’t have any. “You guys are so lucky; you don’t worry about anything.” Well, everyone carries insecurities. Thanks to cultural emphasis on penis size, one of our hardest insecurities to deal with is related to that. If a woman wants to hurt a man, all she has to do is critique his manhood. Whether we admit it or not, that hits us where it hurts.
So since I’m okay owning my size, I commented on my friend’s post saying that if I wrote something similar about a woman’s body, she and many others would likely react differently.
Mind you, this is a woman who takes offense if a man sends her a message saying, “Hello, we should meet.” Which shows she values respect, and I’m on board with that. But it also shows how we can all be hypocritical sometimes.
On one hand, you want respect, which everyone deserves. On the other hand, you are putting down a friend for dating men with less than 8-inch penises. When I pointed this out, she brought up men’s history of mistreatment toward women and how suddenly we are sensitive now. Okay, I see the point. At that moment, I decided to bow out of what seemed like a pointless back and forth. At the end of the day, it’s a matter of hypocrisy. Plain and simple.
I mean, how would that even work? Before a date, does someone say, “Hi Alberto, before we go forward, is your penis at least 8 inches? If not, goodbye.”
Imagine if men said that on social media. Anyway, yes, men have insecurities. Most won’t talk about them because of pride and ego. Well, I’m saying it on behalf of those men. I’ll take the mockery and jokes for all of us. We all have insecurities, no matter how perfect we might seem on the surface.
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