A Question Of Motive

Recently, a very attractive woman who has never spoken to me engaged me in a brief conversation. She flashed her pretty smile at me, her eyes twinkled under the artificial fluorescent light, and her super tight pants illustrated her high level of fitness and the extreme confidence that she has in her amazing body. There is no question that this woman knows she’s got it going on.

The thing I found rather odd, that immediately set off the red flags was that one of the very first questions she asked me was- “Where are you from?” This was before my name, before really talking, and came right out of the blue.

Now, there are two ways we can look at this: The first is that perhaps, since English and our culture are new to her, she doesn’t know how to strike up a proper small talk conversation? Or, the other possible option is that she has some ulterior motive in querying my background?

One of the main reasons the “where are you from” stood out to me was because I heard her ask the same question to another guy she was talking to only moments earlier. So again, her questions are either very limited, or there is some ulterior motive going on there. Correct me if I am wrong, but “Where are you from” generally comes in a little later in the conversation. Not right from the start. Am I right or am I right?

Anyway, as soon as she asked me that question, I became suspicious and could not commit to the conversation. I hung around, and engaged her for a bit, but then I said “I should let you get back to your work out, it’s been nice talking to you.” That was a polite, though very clear way of ending the conversation and carrying on with my training regiment. Call me crazy, but I don’t trust people too easily, and I always question what the intent is when something like this happens.

Am I overreacting? Crazy? What do you think based on the little information that I have provided? Was this suspect? Am I right in having a question of motive?

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