The image above was captioned with the following statement:
Only one of these five women is pregnant, the others all suffer with debilitating conditions
Do you see where I’m going with this? She could have gained weight, be sick, or who knows what’s going on!
I’ve never done this myself, but I’ve seen women and men in real life make a comment about someone they thought was pregnant, who wasn’t. I’m not perfect and I’ve made many mistakes throughout my life, but this particular mistake is one I’ve not made and don’t plan to.
Recently, at one of my gyms, I saw a woman who looked like she might be expecting. So you’d think I’d congratulate her, right? Wrong. I kept quiet and didn’t say a thing about her belly.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s in my nature to be kind, and I wanted to wish her well. But unless she said something or specifically confirmed she was pregnant without me asking or hinting, I wasn’t going to say anything.
She just smiled and said hi back, so I left it at that. I could see a bit of confusion on her face because I didn’t acknowledge any change, but like I said, give me something. “Oh man, this baby is killing my back,” tell me something, and then I’ll speak up. She didn’t, so I didn’t.
I’ve seen that situation go badly too many times, and I’m not going to risk it. If you tell me you’re pregnant, I’ll congratulate you. Otherwise, I’ll just talk to you normally and won’t say a thing.
So if you are or have been pregnant and I didn’t say anything, I’m not being rude. Please forgive me if it seemed like indifference. I’m just trying to avoid walking into that trap. Please don’t be offended, and know that I truly wish you well. Ladies, if you want us to know, just drop a hint and then you’ll get all the glowing compliments in the world!
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