Where Has Common Courtesy and Respect Gone?

Is it just me, or am I noticing a decline in respect and consideration from people of all ages these days? I don’t want to sound like someone complaining about younger generations or judging adults harshly, but it is genuinely concerning how often I see people not being considerate to others. This isn’t something I’ve only noticed locally. It seems widespread wherever I travel.

For example, I often see able-bodied individuals not offering their seats on the subway to elderly passengers, pregnant women, or those with injuries. Some people avoid eye contact or pretend to be engrossed in a book. Others don’t hold doors open or hold elevators even when they see someone approaching. Common courtesy seems to be becoming less common, which I find disappointing. Maybe it’s a reflection of a more individualistic culture today. Growing up, I was taught to be respectful and considerate to neighbors and elders, values I believe are still important. My parents’ approach to instilling respect was firm but fair, and that upbringing kept me aware of how my behavior affected those around me.

It also seems that parenting styles have shifted over the years. Some parents today prefer to be friends with their children rather than setting clear rules and boundaries. While being loving and supportive is vital, children also benefit from consistent guidance that fosters respect for others. When I see kids behaving disrespectfully in public, it can feel like a sign that these values may not be emphasized at home.

As for adults who act inconsiderately, it is simply disappointing. Respect and kindness don’t have to fade with age. Even during difficult times in my own life, such as when I had a major injury and used a cane, I made an effort to behave considerately by offering my seat, holding doors, and not complaining unnecessarily. I sometimes wonder where those values have gone for some people.

That said, I do see hope. Many young people and adults still demonstrate kindness and respect, offering help and showing genuine courtesy to others. Those acts are a breath of fresh air and a reminder that many people were raised with strong values and still carry them. There is nothing wrong with doing the right thing, and I hope more people make it a meaningful part of their everyday lives.