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I had a young person reach out and ask this question. If you too are wondering why your crush doesn’t say hi to you, there are a few things to consider.
If you and your crush know each other, it is possible that your crush may know that you are crushing on them, that in itself is enough to make someone act a bit different around you. The simple fact that your crush could be aware of how you feel is enough to make them treat you differently. The reasons for that are many. From trying to be cool and impressing you, to shyness or just trying not to say or do anything misleading, etc. In addition to that, your crush may or may not feel the same way about you. Well, clearly they either do or they don’t. This is yet another reason that could lead to “different” behavior towards you.
I find that we tend to be more relaxed and natural (initially) when there is no pressure. If you like a person, (know that they like you) you could become anxious and worried about what they think, how they feel, etc. This adds pressure and makes you act “differently” towards the object of your affection. This is a possibility.
Honestly, as I get older I’ve realized that I don’t like uncertainty. I hate wondering around about how someone feels or what my chances are. You may or may not be ready for this approach, but I prefer to just know! If I wanted to date someone, I’d simply go for it. It’s not easy, but ask yourself, what have you got to lose? What’s the worse possible case scenario? The worse case scenario is that they laugh in your face and say no. If that happens, you might feel a little embarrassed, maybe a little hurt, your pride and ego will suffer a bit, but trust me, life goes on.
On the other hand, they may be interested in knowing you too! They may say yes and then you can proceed to enjoy whatever time you have together.
Isn’t it better to just know and have some certainty in life? Personally, I’d rather just know if they feel the same way or if there is a possibility they could. I mean, there is nothing wrong with letting things develop slowly and organically, but irregardless of your approach, you have to make your intentions known. Or I should say, even if you are casual about it, they will know what’s up anyway. Then they’ll either agree to have that meal with you or not.
At the end of the day life is about taking risks. Sometimes the result is favorable, sometimes it is not. But one thing is for sure, life goes on and there is always another opportunity! Best of luck.