{"id":116,"date":"2015-06-04T06:53:15","date_gmt":"2015-06-04T06:53:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/findinglatino.com\/?p=116"},"modified":"2017-01-13T15:10:15","modified_gmt":"2017-01-13T20:10:15","slug":"boys-dont-cry-los-hombres-no-lloran","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/nyctalking.com\/boys-dont-cry-los-hombres-no-lloran\/","title":{"rendered":"Boys don’t Cry Los Hombres no lloran"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I was younger, I saw a young Mexican kid crying. His mom was trying to comfort him, and his father went over and said \u201cHey, los hombres no lloran!\u201d The kid looked at him, and tried to fight back the tears. His father looked at him sternly, and repeated \u201cUsted deja de llorar como una nina, ahora mismo, porque lla le dije que los hombres no lloran! The kid stopped crying, and his father nodded approvingly.<\/p>\n

Men in general are taught to be tough, hard, and not express their feelings. Generally a man who is expressive, or emotional, is looked at as \u201cweak,\u201d a \u201cpussy,\u201d or in some cases \u201cgay.\u201d This is reality, it may not be politically correct, but this is the truth. This is extremely true for us Latinos<\/a>, the example above is not rare.<\/p>\n

I remember some parents would say, if you get beat up, and you show up here crying, I\u2019ll beat you up myself. You don\u2019t cry, you fight back, and you stand up for yourself. There have been youtube videos of this posted online, and while some parents praise them for raising \u201cmen,\u201d others consider it child abuse. Mind you, most of the ones that said things like this, were MOMS! Moms in the hood didn\u2019t play!<\/p>\n

My mom actually forced me to go to this guy\u2019s house, he had stolen my gold cap, and she wanted it back. LOL. Grossness aside, my mom wasn\u2019t scared, I was, I didn\u2019t want to get beat up, but my mom wasn\u2019t having it! So we went and knocked on this guy\u2019s door. Nothing came of it, the guy kept my gold cap since I wasn\u2019t cooperating with the investigation, but the point is that mom wasn\u2019t having it!<\/p>\n

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As a young father, I have always tried to instill balance on my son. He has seen me cry, he has seen me show love and emotion. However, he has also seen me being strong and tough, when the situation deems it necessary. Since my dad passed away, my son has seen me crying many times, and I am not ashamed of it, I lost my father.<\/p>\n

At times he says \u201cPops, I\u2019m sorry that I don\u2019t seem emotional. I didn\u2019t know him.\u201d This is true, my father did not have much of a relationship with my son, so he doesn\u2019t feel the pain that I do. I say to\u00a0him, \u201cWhat I am to you, he was to me. Think, maybe 30 years from now, after all that we would have shared together, one day, I will be completely gone. That\u2019s what I\u2019m dealing with.\u201d<\/p>\n

https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=1gemlWwkUds<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that he doesn\u2019t understand death, but he cannot feel for a man he didn\u2019t know. He feels for me, but in terms of my dad, due to not having a relationship with him, he doesn\u2019t feel anything but sympathy for me. That\u2019s fair and understandable. My point is, that my son has seen me show emotion. He\u2019s not the only one that has seen it either.<\/p>\n

Though I don\u2019t walk around showing tears to everyone, those that are close to me, have at one point or another seen me show emotion. It\u2019s human, natural, and healthy. Men can cry, there is nothing wrong with showing emotion. Although, I would discouraging being like that intolerable opera guy Hoffman<\/a>, now that guy was a biznatch!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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